PUBLIC HARASSMENT: FOR THE PAST TWO YEARS I’VE BEEN HARASSED
For the past two years, I’ve been harassed by a stranger (a man) when I’m walking around the lake at the park. I first saw him at the lake years ago when I was taking a walk. I walked close to where he was fishing to pick up some fishing line some other fisherman left behind. He started talking to me, asking me if I’m feeding the ducks. I said no, not today, but I do feed them some days. I know he said “because I watch you all the time.” It was raining that day and he continued talking to me. He said it’s the kind of a day to go for a coffee to stay warm. I immediately got the feeling he was coming on to me and wanted to go for a coffee with me. I walked away without saying a word to him about his coffee remark. The next time I saw him is when the harassing started. Every time I went to the lake he would confront me angrily and harass me about feeding the ducks, even when I wasn’t. He screamed at me and anyone passing by he would complain to them about me feeding the ducks. After a few incidents of his angry harassment, I made sure I would avoid him at all costs. I started going for my walk at different times. But he finally was on my schedule again, and waited for me to enter the park so he could go on and on with his duck feeding rant. I did everything I could to keep him out of my sight by looking to see if he was in the park before I entered. This went on for a few years -avoiding him at all costs. Then one day when my guard was down and I’d forgotten about him. There he was, right in front of me screaming and ranting again about the duck feeding, even though I wasn’t feeding the ducks. I’d be just walking around the lake.
To make a long story short, this went on for a long time. I’d accidentally see him there, he would rant and scream, on and off. Today I was taking pictures of the ducks and I heard his familiar voice ranting behind me. It had been over a year since I saw him and I was shocked to hear him harassing me again about the duck feeding. Again, I was not feeding them. I was taking pictures of them.
That’s when I realized this wasn’t about the ducks anymore, this was a personal attack on me and had been for a long time. I decided to confront him and walked up to him to ask him why he was harassing me. He said he’d been watching me for the past ten years at the lake feeding the ducks. I said yes, I have fed the ducks over the years but that’s no reason for him to be harassing me every time he sees me. I got really mad because he had been harassing me for years and no matter what, wasn’t going to stop. I told him if he didn’t leave me alone, I was going to call the police. He said “go ahead.” I chose not to because I’ve been trying to deal with this myself, seeing as it seems like it’s not been a lot of times. And his harassments end when I leave the park, so I’d try not to worry about it. There was one thing different today, though, that’s bothering me more than before. Before, I could leave and go home and not worry about him. But today, as I was leaving the park and after I screamed at him to leave me alone, he screamed back at me: “I know where you live.” There’s no way for him to know where I live unless he’s followed me home in his car while I was walking home. Now, I’m scared because maybe he’s been following me well before this, and what possible reason would he have to follow me home? It’s scaring me, thinking about what he is capable of. I am a 70-year-old woman, on my own, who minds my own business. I go for walks and I do feed the ducks at times especially when my grandchildren are with me. He looks older than me, or close to my age. He’s always alone. Should I be worried about him?