I was staying the night at my friends home during a rather bad time in my life (breakup with boyfriend) and it was really late at night but I was not tired, I left my room and went into her kitchen to grab something to eat and noticed her roomate (Male, but they aren’t dating) sitting on a chair in the living room adjacent to the kitchen. I had talked to him a few times and he seemed like a really nice guy, was also very attractive. He made a comment which drew me over to the couch that butts up against the recliner he was sitting in. He had a laptop sitting on the arm of the chair with a pornographic forums website up called dick flash. He told me he stumbled across it by accident and told me about a video of girl getting flashed by a guy who was asking for directions. I told him that was crazy and he asked me what I would do in that same situation, I told him I wasn’t sure but that it would probably depend if i got a creepy vibe from the guy like he wanted to rape or kill me.
I had put something in the microwave and went to fetch it before coming back to sit on the couch and watch TV for a few minutes. A few minutes later I was looking through my phone pictures about to post something on Facebook and noticed out of the corner of my eye his hand moving up and down behind a pillow, a sinking feeling came over me when I realized what he was probably doing, wanting proof for my friend i turned my phone on camera mode and waited. A few minutes later he said “hey check this out”, somehow the words didn’t register that he was about to flash me and I looked over at the computer thinking that is what he had referred to and when nothing notable showed up i realized he was probably doing what you could imagine he was doing… masturbating. His penis wasn’t hard and I was able to snap a photo of it. I acted disgusted and got up and left. I went to my roomates room and woke her up shaking. It was so pathetic, what a creeper.
In Spain, walking at 11pm by myself through the city of Santander to meet up my friends for a pregame when I see a man in the middle of the sidewalk just standing there. I start getting a strange feeling until he turns to the side and I see his erect genitals. I stop in the tracks, horrified and turn down the closest street I can as fast as I can before he can see me. The fear I felt was intense, I was forced into panic mode to try and get away. It was a scarring, horrible experience.
The first time a man exposed himself to me I was 11 years old in Cinncinnati, Ohio.
I am now nearly 50 and I have gotten so used to ignoring street harassment that I stopped thinking about it years ago.
The list of serious street harassment experiences I have had is so long that it is pointless to list them all. Everything from the city worker in city uniform in a city truck wiggling his tongue through the crotch of his fingers, to men brazenly grabbing my ass as I walk down the sidewalk, to the every day “you’d look good on me”, and nowadays:”You still lookin’ good for an old lady, you a cougar baby?”….and the kissing sounds, those are the most revolting.
I’ve learned to ignore them, stay aware from those parts of town, and not to use the train or bus because of the harassment. It’s just not worth it to deal with it.
Sadly: it is just become a background factor in my life. I just live accepting that this is the way it has always been and will always be: no one has ever done anything about it, bystanders often laugh or jump in and join the harasser. You can call the cops, but they do not take reports. I have even had them say “Why do you want to report this and ruin the poor guy’s life?” or some other version of “boys will be boys.”
Now I watch the same thing happening to my daughter and I am furious.
Stopped at the gas station for a snack and the bathroom. I walked in the bathroom to find a man with his pants around his knees and his junk clearly visible. Ran out of bathroom (women’s) and told clerk. She didn’t care. Called police, they also did nothing, despite this man flashing in the women’s bathroom. I was told I was mistaken.
This is not the first time this has happened to me in New York City. Actually the 4th. I grew up here. And am aware of my surroundings. This morning a young guy – looked relatively normal – was looking at me from the platform. I was sitting inside the R train. One other man was in my train car but seated in the opposite direction.
The young guy exposed himself and was masturbating towards me. I didn’t know how to react. Normally I would say something but I realized I then didn’t trust the other male in the train car with me. My instinct was to look down. I cried realizing it ruined my judgement of the other male who could have been a nice person.
As an after thought I should have maybe taken a photo to report him. Wish I could do something more.
So I am 14 years old and today something really disgusting happened. I was walking around, exercising and this guy stops his car next to me. He was saying “Excuse me! Excuse me!”. I stopped and he asked for directions to a street. Since I am only 14 and can’t drive I had no clue where this street was so I said no. Then He asked, “Can you suck my nuts?” and flashed me. I stared crying and ran all the way home. I was so upset and still am. I’ve been getting street harassed for about a week now. All the sudden all of the guys driving started honking, whistling, ect. I want to be able to just walk down the street but now I can’t, I’m too scared.
A man outside of the local box store with his genitalia completely out.
So me, my ma and my little sister were walking down a sidewalk. Just trying to get our fitness on you know? There were these stairs by these yellow apartments. As we walked into view I saw some guy’s legs (they were covered) by the stairs. I thought he was just chilling outside minding his own business. We walked past the stairs when suddenly he called out ‘hey’. I ignored him at first, acting like I didn’t hear him. He called out hey a second time, I turned this time because I thought ‘hey, maybe he needs some directions to go someplace’ or something like that. But when I turned.. he had his penis out. He was smiling, and I was in total shock, along with my little sister. My ma turned around and was like asking me what? I was stuttering and saying, he was showing his private part! He was still there by the stairs and ran off when my mom ran screaming at him. He ran off, you know? An asshole he is. Ma called the cops and they came and they ask for description and stuff like that, they were gonna look out for him. Don’t know if they caught him or not. But neighbors were coming out and were wondering what was going on, they were also shocked too. Gosh, now that I think about.. next time Imma try to do something. But still… crazy world.
While delivering pizza I went to an address where the man refused to come outside saying I would need to meet him in the hallway.
Upon transaction through doorway the man said I needed to return with change (.08 cents) upon returning with the change the man was wearing only boxers with erection.
As I use my personal cellphone to contact customers he proceeded to call my phone twice with heavy breathing/groaning before I figured out how to block numbers.
I ran down the stairs to catch the train at Forest Hills and as I rushed down, I noticed a man standing on the platform, alone, not getting on the train. In the few seconds before I got onto the train, I found it really strange that the man was just standing there. At first, I assumed he was waiting for another train or maybe waiting for someone else but as I turned to see him, his fly was unzipped and his junk for people to see. I just glared at him and as the train left he smiled like an ass. In that moment, I feel like my mind didn’t function. I should have given him my finger as the train doors closed or said something.
Did no one else notice him?