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Two times waiting outside for my ride in front of my university a hey baby would you tap that and someone telling me to smile….both times I made an extremely angry face…but that’s it…
My sister and I were walking to the store when some man in a pickup truck yelled at us “I want to eat your pussy” and wouldn’t stop when I yelled at him.
I was taking an hour-long walk and enjoying the long overdue sunshine. It was a really zen and beautiful moment for me. I got close to a hawk that was on a low branch on my college campus and thought about how much I love animals because they generally don’t bother people. I’d been honked at already by three male drivers I’d mistakenly made eye contact with. It startled me and made me angry every time.
I was halfway back to my apartment when a guy started revving up his motorcycle at the sight of me. I rolled my eyes while crossing the intersection and he yelled, “Tryin’ to get raped?!”
He continued yelling things at me until the light changed. Blood was rushing too loud in my ears for me or hear the rest. All I keep thinking is that I hope his fragile ego overtakes him and he dies in a wreck of his own causing.
I go to a Fitness Center in Kanawha City and there are guys there who stare at us – leering, actually. Some are more aggressive and start talking to you. One freak who seems to be an nutrition salesman started flexing & telling me I should “brag on me, I look good for my age. I’m growing like a two year old!”
Women pay the same fees as the guys do – we just want to workout in peace!!
My husband and I stopped at a fast food restaurant to use the bathroom on our way to a marriage retreat. I entered the bathroom and immediately felt like this was not a good area to be in.
I entered a stall anyway and while using the bathroom a woman reached underneath the door with her phone, made a clicking sound and then took my picture.
Unfortunately, this is not the first time I’ve been taken advantage of in a public place and immediately the feelings of anger and powerlessness overtook me. I didn’t know what to do.. Stay away from this location!
On my 12 minute walk to and from work, I get 5 honks per day on average. It’s a frustrating experience, and a horrible way to start and/or end my day. I wish I could tell which cars they come from when traffic is heavy so I could tell them how disrespectful and disgusting it is.
Hello Hollabackers! Happy Women’s History Month! HOLLAs have been especially busy this past week and it is AWESOME.
Here’s what HOLLAs around the world have been up to:
Hollaback! Baltimore is gathering TODAY to celebrate three years of fighting street harassment. The event will include an awesome and impactful display by Luminous Intervention, along with readings of stories submitted to their website or from attendees who would like to share their own. Happy Birthday, Hollaback! Baltimore!
Hollaback! Boston held a workshop titled “We Hollaback!: Creating a World Without Street Harassment” for Harvard University students. They discussed the prominence of street harassment in the local community and how students can address it in a powerful and meaningful way. HB! Boston also participated in Massachusetts’ White Ribbon Day Campaign, which seeks to mobilize men to end violence against women. And last but not least, they released a public statement about a court ruling in Massachusetts that made upskirt photos on transit legal.
Hollaback! Brussels participated in an event called: “Feminist Action 2.0” in recognition of “Week of the Women”, a week of events leading up to International Women’s Day. The event was organized by the “Vrouwen Overleg Komitee” and the city council of Brussels to bring together different types of feminist action groups and feminist organizations, and to start a debate on how they can work together, which views they have on feminism, and on taking action. This was the first meeting of several.
Hollaback! Des Moines held casting for their production of “The Vagina Monologues,” which they are sponsoring in collaboration with the Women of Color Advisory Network (WOCAN) and Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault. The performance is slated for April 12th, during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and proceeds will go to WOCAN.
Hollaback! Hamilton created a street harassment survey for McMaster University students in order to help them better understand some of the realities of street harassment in Hamilton. Yesterday, they tabled at their local International Women’s Day event. They have also started planning an event for International Anti-Street Harassment week at McMaster University. Stay tuned for more details!
Hollaback! London is launching a brand new campaign today! It’s all about getting clubs, pubs, bars and venues to tackle and prevent harassment. Keep an eye on the hashtag #goodnightout for details and check here for updates. They will also be attending an 80s Themed Good Night Out club night with feminist DJs at ULU. Hollaback! ULU will also be joining them.
Hollaback! Ottawa, along with community partners, wrote an open letter directed to men involved in a recent rape culture incident at the University of Ottawa. Here’s an excerpt from this amazing and powerful letter:
“How do we tell young women to protect themselves from their lab partners, their boyfriends, their prom dates, their classmates, and from rapists? We don’t. We tell men that sexual assault is wrong. We educate young men about consent. We build a society and community that respects women and sees them as equals, not as objects. Can you take steps to further educate yourselves about violence against women? Can you help turn the conversation around?”
HB! Ottawa was also honored and asked to share their most recent victories at an event titled “We Win Every Day”.
Hollaback! University of London Union (ULU) hosted “Hollaback Riot Night Reloaded” to celebrate the beginning of ULU Women’s History Month Festival. They had a great turnout with some awesome bands as well as their kickass t-shirts mentioned last week. The flyer for the event is pictured above. Sounds like it was an awesome event!
What an amazing start to March! Keep up the fantastic work, HOLLAs!
HOLLA and out!
- The Hollaback! Team
I was walking out of 7eleven when a male behind me said to his friend “I like that butt!” Several times, loud enough so I could hear until I gave eye contact. I got in my car but he kept staring and then finally got into his car. I wrote down his license plate but doubt I can really take any additional action. I felt sad and gross inside afterward.
I’m new to Cincinnati, and I wanted to explore downtown because I heard so many good things about it. I ignored the expected “hey baby’s” and even the comment on my brown opaque stockings (WTF?).
As I walked by the downtown bus exchange, a woman (older than me) made a comment like “look at you in your fine hat.” The way she said it was remarkably suggestive, especially the way she said the word “fine”. At the time I just smiled awkwardly, feeling pretty uncomfortable.
Later I thought, Hold on, would she talk to a man in the same way? And if she did, how would he respond? I love my new hat, but now it seems…tarnished.
I don’t want people to walk down the street stony-faced, never acknowledging others around them. There’s nothing wrong with a nod or a smile as you walk by. But come on, people! What is the point of making other people feel uncomfortable on purpose?!?
We’re so excited for our tweetup today! It starts at 1pm EST, please use the #harassmentis hashtag.
Our ALL-STAR list of panelists include:
Soraya Chemaly @schemaly
Patricia Valoy @Besito86
Jamia A. Wilson @jamiaw
Jennifer L. Pozner @jennpozner
Hollaback Boston @hollabackboston
Tatyana Fazlalizadeh (Stop Telling Women to Smile) @fazlalizadeh
Joneka Percentie (SPARK) @jpercentie.
Courtney Young @cocacy
We want to acknowledge that this conversation may be challenging and even triggering to people, and it’s OK to step back and take care of yourself if you need to. To make this conversation as smart and loving as possible, we have three rules:
1. No woulda coulda shoulda. When someone shares their story, keep any advice you have for what the person should have done in the situation to yourself. We know you’re just trying to help, but street harassment has a way of filling folks with self doubt and they don’t need your encouragement.
2. No personal attacks. This can range from “you deserve it,” to “you’re an asshole.” We’re all here because we’re against harassment, so let’s not perpetuate those behaviors online.
3. Attack ideas, not people’s stories. If there is idea or a concept that you don’t like, tweet about it. If someone is telling a personal story that you don’t like, please approach their story with sensitivity. If there is a concept behind their story that you disapprove of (i.e. men of color are more likely to be harassers) comment and critique the concept, not the individual.
If you’re new to the conversation on street harassment and race, welcome! Please take some time to read #harassmentis: our guide on how identity impacts the experience of street harassment. Hollaback! Boston has also put together a fantastic reading list that will help you engage in this conversation in a smart and thoughtful way.
If you’re coming in as an ally, we’re happy you’re here. Please remember that sometimes the most revolutionary thing you can do as an ally is listen.