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HOLLA ON THE GO: “Ridiculous grown men”

Construction men working on Jared Jewelers in the Target shopping center on Putty Hill whistling and waving at me and a number of other women walking to and from their cars.

I had parked a bit farther away from them and they still proceeded to call attention to themselves. Ridiculous grown men.

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Morgan’s story: “Clearly those of us on the VARSITY CROSS-COUNTRY RUNNING TEAM have NOTHING better to do than stop to exchange contact info with some stranger in the middle of our workout”

I am running with the gang – the rest of my university’s women’s cross-country running team. We’re warming up, heading along a downtown street toward the track for our workout. We pass a group of boys who look like fellow students. No one in our group acknowledges them.

They would have been just a few random strangers among the hundreds I pass every day, except then I hear some noise – garbled talking that I can’t make out, and what might have been a whistle.

And then I can make it out, can tell exactly what it is, and I’m furious but we’re past them and it’s too late to say anything without getting left behind.

I resign myself to doing nothing and moving on. But these guys aren’t done yet. The vocal one and his “pack” follow us around the corner, and I hear him shout “can I get a number ladies?”

Because clearly those of us on the VARSITY WOMEN’S CROSS-COUNTRY RUNNING TEAM have NOTHING better to do than stop to exchange contact info with some stranger in the middle of our workout. Clearly.

I keep running, afraid of what might happen if I stop – for whatever reason. And I don’t yell back, unwilling to start something and involve the whole team. But I refuse to roll over completely. Without even looking back, I raise my hand high and I give him the finger.

I don’t know if he sees, or knows what I’m trying to convey, but I feel better after taking some action. I doubt I changed anything today, but it’s not about that – it’s about there being a record of someone having said: this is not okay.

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HOLLABACK TO SCHOOL: Bump and Grind from Behind Guy

BY TANISHA LOVE RAMIREZ

Back to school means back to harassment for 61% of men and 62% of women on college campuses.  This year, we’ve decided to poke a little fun at the harassers by developing fake facebook profiles of all the different types of harassers we’ve come to know and hate over the years.

Name: Bump and Grind From Behind

Favorite Quote: “I don’t see nothin’ wrong with a lil’ bump and grind, baby”~By the King of R&Baby-Making R Kelly!

About You:  I’m a quiet guy who likes to let my hands and hips do the talking.  I’ve got the moves like Jagger.

Political Views: My views are always from behind! Dayum, girl!

Relationship Status: Single, but looking 😉

Work/ Education: B.A. in Anthropology.

(Please note, the pictures are fake too. No dudes were harmed in the making of this spoof).

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Sydney’s story: he wouldn’t let me walk past…

More than once as I’ve walked to and from TAFE I’ve had the people who approach you on the street (to sign you up to a charity, to make donations etcetc) actually stand in front of me and not allow me to walk past. The first time it happened I was terrified. It was 2 in the afternoon, there was a lot of people walking around and this guy was shouting at me trying to get my attention, demanding to know why I wouldn’t stop and speak to him about (whoever he was working for) and it wasn’t until I looked up at him, and he saw how frightened I was and he looked around and saw all the people staring at him that he actually stood aside and let me walk past, still shouting after me.

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Ashley’s story: “I did NOT want to be a girl who does nothing… And regret it. So we called 911.”

As my fiancé and I walked into our neighborhood Grocery store for our usual Sunday morning grocery trip, my fiancé got me to grab the cart while he walked ahead to print out MVP coupons. As I took the cart out and started walking to find him, I passed by a man exiting the store, carrying nothing, wearing a white polo and jeans. As he exited, and I entered the store, I felt a hand grab my ass…

I turned around and yelled “EXCUSE ME?!” The man looked back at me out of the corner of his eye.. I said “did you just touch me?!” He averted his attention to some magazines near the exit door, looking very guilty. without making much eye contact with me he mumbled “I don’t know what happened, I was just walking by, I must have accidentally brushed you.”

At this point, my fiancé joins me, looking confused.. I tell him this man grabbed my ass and he starts loudly cursing at the guy. Whoever in the checkout lines wasn’t already witnessing what was going on definitely was at this point! Caught red-handed the man VERY AWKWARDLY re-entered the store and headed toward the beer section.

At this point, we aren’t exactly in the mood to grocery shop beside this guy as if nothing happened.. So we notify the cashiers who call management up. They get to us quickly & we identify the man. They assure us they’ll make sure the man leaves after purchasing his Budweiser. Then Dave asks me if I want to call the police…

For some reason the flurry of emotion (anger, violation, disgust, confusion) made me forget about this option. I did NOT want to be a girl who does nothing… And regret it. So we called 911 as the man stood in the checkout line. The managers of the store confronted him as he was leaving to let him know the police were on their way and to stick around.

Our (female) police officer arrived soon after and handled the situation. She asked if I wanted to press charges and I said yes. she wasn’t sure whether it could be filed as assault or sexual assault (forcible), but is going to let me know tomorrow.

In the end, I questioned myself at LEAST 100 times about whether I was doing the right thing. It’s so true that as the victim you still feel at fault somehow.. You question what you were wearing and you also go through phases where you feel sorry for the attacker. But I’m so glad I handled it the way I did… And that my fiancé didn’t beat the man’s ass as he was about to!

I hope that my story inspires someone to do the same & that my actions prevent this man from having a chance to victimize someone else.

PS. The manager of Food Lion who detained the man until the policewoman came said the man was bragging about how he’d been drinking at the bar already (the attack happened at 12:30pm on a Sunday)

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Sydney’s story: “seriously? you’re going to shout at us?”

I was walking with a friend of mine through a park and we approached a group of guys in their mid to late 20’s, all obviously dressed up for a night out, cans of drink in their hands. We both tensed up and walked a bit closer together as we walked past(within a metre or two) them one of them screamed “GIRLS!” at us. My friend drawled “‘sup” and I just gave them my snootiest “seriously? you’re going to shout at us?” look and we kept walking. We could hear them laughing and shouting as they walked in the opposite direction and we mocked them, but all I could think was “why did they feel the need to shout at us when they were standing right next to us? why did they feel the need to say anything to us?”

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A week in our shoes: CONGRESS OF WOMEN IN POLESKA EDITION

Hey Hollabackers!

Another exciting week here at Hollaback! We’re gearing up for our big event with Cornell tomorrow, where we will release somepowerful research on street harassment, and then celebrate our success with a benefit dra g show (what else?). On Saturday, September 22nd, join us at Stonewall for RIOT! A drag show and benefit.  Also this week, I was named one of Brooklyn Magazine’s “Brooklyn 20.” To congratulate me they dressed me up as a hipster super villain. Seriously. Check the picture (right).

Check out what our site leaders around the world have been up to this week:

Hollaback NYC Calls on State Leaders to Pass New Law Protecting Straphangers from Sexual Assault.  In the current lawsubway “grinding” (also known as masturbating against someone) isn’t considered “forcible,” which means that it’s not categorized as sexual assault. We’re working with Public Advocate DeBlasio to close the loophole — check out our letter here.

Hollaback Czech holds its first workshop! It took place this week at the QueerFEM*Days conference and was a huge success.

Hollaback joins V-DAY’s “One Billion Rising” campaign! Want to join, too? Make a “Why I am Rising” video and they will post it!

Hollaback Berlin on the radio! If you speak German, listen in here. (posted on fb Sept 14)

Hollaback Sheffield is working with the students union and police officers to make a safer city.  To learn more, check out their recent article in “Forget Today.”

Hollaback was at the Congress of Women in Poland!  A video of us was shown at a panel called, “No more violence against women,” (Saturday, 15/09/2012, 12 – 1.30 pm), during which Greta, one of our site leader in Poland, also briefly spoke about Hollaback Polska, its goals and achievements so far. Among others, she presented some of the data from their recently conducted study on street harassment in Poland. Joanna, our other site leader in Poland, also spoke about Hollaback Polska and the notion of street harassment, why it is so harmful, etc., during another event at the Congress. Hollaback Poleska also had a stand where we conducted various activities, discussed street harassment, presented the results of our study, gave out leaflets and badges, and made contacts. Go Hollaback Poleska!

Hollaback Des Moines is running a HOLLAween campaign, and they need your help! Last year, they spoke at Iowa Pride Network Leadership Summit, partnered with the Iowa Coalition Against Sexual Assault to make street harassment part of SAAT programming, worked with Drake University student activists and tabled at their “Vagina Carnival,” prior to three performances of Eve Ensler’s play, partnered with the Chrysalis Foundation to facilitate a screening of the documentary, “Miss Representation.” Check out their website for information on how you can help their efforts this year!

Hollaback UK site leaders met this week at feminist summer school in Bristol! They are collaborating on developing policy recommendations, campaigns, and garnering media attention. Stay tuned for more awesome updates coming from the UK!

Hollaback NYU in BUST online! Site leader Catie Brown talks about NYU’s plan for the future: “We’re going to be popping up all over campus this semester, getting the word out about our site and encouraging submissions. We’re also planning a fundraiser concert for the spring, and we’re always reaching out to and looking to collaborate with other campus organizations.” To read the full article, click here.

Did you miss Hollaback Edinburgh‘s launch party? Watch it here:

Last but not least, you’ve gotta check out our “Cats Against Catcalls” tumblr if you haven’t already. Here’s Kitty Gaga as a teaser:

HOLLA and out —
Emily

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Egyptian Center for Women’s Rights Reports that Street Harasser Killed Harassment Victim

BY RITA PASARELL

Earlier this week, the Egyptian Center for Women’s Rights (ECWR) reported that a 20 year old woman was shot to death immediately after responding to a street harasser by whom she had been sexually assaulted.  No one should have to ignore a sexual assault, and no one should walk in fear because she is accessing a public space.  Our hearts and voices go out to this young woman and her loved ones.

As it is in many countries, street harassment has been “epidemic” in Egypt, but “now more women are talking about it,” ECWR’s Nehad Abul Komsan said recently.   ECWR has been a strong advocate for harassment victims, gathering research statistics on street harassment and submitting proposed law drafts regarding the problem to Egyptian lawmakers, including Egyptian President Morsi.

Hollaback encourages all women to keep speaking out against street harassment—stories change the world and can shape policy.  We urge all governments to take this problem seriously because we agree with ECRW that sexual harassment is a social cancer.  In New York, we’re calling upon elected officials to pass a new law that would enable prosecutors to bring felony charges against sex offenders who assault their victims on crowded trains and buses.  Add your voice: let your community and elected officials know that you won’t tolerate street harassment.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: Stalked

Man followed me for several blocks yelling “baby!” over and over again.

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Kamau Bell: “I’m against cat calling. As a man with a daughter, I pretty much have to be.”

(You can see the full interview on NBC Bay Area)

“Corey: Do you have an opinion on cat calling?

Kamau: I certainly understand that women get cat called all over the world, even in San Francisco, but when we went to New York, I see it way more than I ever saw it in San Francisco. I didn’t know we were still doing that as a male culture.

Corey: Is it like we see on TV and the movies, construction workers hollering?

Kamau: Absolutely. Construction guys or guys who just yell at women down the block. What’s the best-case scenario here? When I was doing my show, I would be curious about stuff and do research and be like, ‘Oh my God, I had no idea!’ There’s a series of movements women have started against street harassment, because street harassment covers cat calling and groping and whipping out your penis on the subway. We talked to a bunch of women on the street, and all of them had been cat called at some point in their life.

That’s what I like about my act in general and the show; a lot of this is me learning about the world with the audience. At first the audiences were in the theatres and comedy clubs, but, hopefully, there will be a decent enough percentage of America that I can get a college fund for my baby daughter.

Corey: Nice.

Kamau: We talked to men about cat calling and some said, ‘I don’t do it and don’t know anybody who does.’ Others were like, ‘I have friends who do it.’ ‘Really? Friends? You mean the guy you see in the mirror every morning?’ I’m against cat calling. As a man with a daughter, I pretty much have to be.”

Our crush on Kamau Bell continues. Tweet at him (@wkamaubell) and congratulate him for being such an awesome dude.

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