Replacing sexism with racism is not a proper holla back. Ditto to classism, homophobia, transphobia, and the usage of any other identity signifier. In our experiences, harassment comes from people in every facet of our cultures and every strata of society. We ask that you refrain from referencing the attributes of your harasser because this movement is about changing societal values, not pointing fingers. If you feel those details are important to your story, please make sure its relevance is explained clearly and constructively in your post.
We think that telling your experiences with harassment is an incredibly bold act. We admire the people that have the strength to do it, and we want their experience to be 100% empowering. Too often survivors of sexual and gender-based violence do not get the respect they deserve. That culture stops here, with our short & badass comments policy.
1. No woulda coulda shoulda. Keep any advice you have for what the person should have done in the situation to yourself. We know you’re just trying to help, but harassment has a way of filling folks with self doubt and they don’t need your encouragement.
2. No hater language. If you feel a desire to want to leave a comment along the lines of “you deserve it,” or “you’re a bitch/slut/ho/t****y/f*g” try slapping some sense into yourself instead, cause we’re not listening (or posting) that nonsense.
3. Debate ideas, not people’s lives. If we post an idea or a concept on the site that you don’t like, tell us about it. If we post a someone’s personal experience on the site that you don’t like, too bad. We think they’re awesome.