Category: Assault

“It’s the equivalent of beating a dead dog”

I’m often verbally harassed at gas stations by customers who tell me I “look like a video girl” while wearing a work uniform of khakis and a baggy t-shirt. A gas station employee twice my age offered to pay for my gas as he was bagging trash. Homeless men frequently “holler” as well. During a … Continued

Why do the best lines always come two blocks too late?

I was leaving Cosi when a young man (probably in his mid 20s) approached me. He said, “nice pussy” and reached out to grab mine. I simply blocked his hand and stared him down until he broke eye contact. I continued on my way, and looked back to see that he was still standing there. … Continued

Do I really have to move just to get some RESPECT?

It’s 5:15pm on New Year’s Eve. I just get off the subway from work, and I’m walking home. An older man, in his mid 50’s, looks at me and as he passes says: “Oh, she’s got hips on her — don’t let the little (something) fool you.” The man behind him, not sure if they … Continued

2011: A year for courage

So this website has brought back all these memories through the years and given me the courage to contact offenders that I was not able to confront at the time.  One was a grad school professor who stuck his finger up my butt while standing in line with him in the cafeteria. It was the … Continued

“No one deserves to be objectified and harassed.”

A few weeks ago I was sexually assaulted at a company holiday party by someone I regarded as a friend.  I was verbally harassed, pinned against a wall and touched inappropriately.  When it happened I couldn’t move, I felt so helpless, but whether by my instincts or him releasing me, I got away.  I was … Continued

What makes you so special?

I was out with my friends at this pub in my hometown. We decided to go out to the courtyard out the back, so we made towards a couple of benches. As we were walking past, a man grabbed me by my wrist and tried to kiss me. I pushed his face away, shocked and … Continued

Workplace harassment hurts, too.

While working as a hotel desk clerk, a couple in their 60s booked a room and the man loitered constantly around the front desk. Part of my job was to take down the breakfast buffet and when I was in the process he pushed me in the wash room and tried to kiss me while … Continued

A chilling call for self-defense classes

I’m a New Yorker, but was living in Paris seven years ago. I guess I felt pretty confident in my street smarts because I had endured countless cat calls/random verbal harassment for years. I was walking home late at night after my friends left me off of a cab a few blocks from my house, … Continued

I haven’t taken the bus alone at night since.

This occurred back in July and although I wanted to write about it then, I wanted to forget it even more. In having to choose what category of harassment it falls into in order to send this story in, I’m even now embarrassed at my difficulty in labeling it. I don’t know that it counts … Continued