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Lesley’s Story: advice

In numerous occasions when men would stare and say harassing things, I found it most effective to look them in the eyes and say Ina clear, strong voice:
“Didn’t your mama teach you not to stare?”
This works!

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You won’t believe how many times this woman gets harassed in 10 hours.

How did this PSA come about?

In August 2014, Rob Bliss of Rob Bliss Creative reached out to Hollaback! to partner on a PSA highlighting the impact of street harassment. He was inspired by his girlfriend — who gets street harassed all the time — and Shoshana B. Roberts volunteered to be the subject of his PSA. For 10 hours, Rob walked in front of Shoshana with a camera in his backpack, while Shoshana walked silently with two mics in her hands.

 

As part of Rob’s agreement with Hollaback!, Rob had creative control over the PSA and owns it with unlimited usage rights for Hollaback!.  Hollaback! is grateful for Rob and Shoshana’s dedication to this issue, and for their volunteer service.

 

What is street harassment?

Street harassment is a form of sexual harassment that takes place in public spaces. It exists on a spectrum including “catcalling” or verbal harassment, stalking, groping, public masturbation, and assault. At its core is a power dynamic that constantly reminds historically subordinated groups (women and LGBTQ folks, for example) of their vulnerability to assault in public spaces. Further, it reinforces the ubiquitous sexual objectification of these groups in everyday life. Street harassment can be sexist, racist, transphobic, homophobic, ableist, sizeist and/or classist.  It is an expression of the interlocking and overlapping oppressions we face and it functions as a means to silence our voices and “keep us in our place.” At Hollaback!, we believe that what specifically counts as street harassment is determined by those who experience it.  If you’ve experienced street harassment, we’ve got your back!

 

Is Shoshana’s experience unique?

The experience of street harassment is different for everyone.  Street harassment disproportionately impacts women, people of color, LGBTQ individuals, and young people.  Although the degree to which Shoshana gets harassed is shocking — the reality is that the harassment that people of color and LGBTQ individuals face is oftentimes more severe and more likely to escalate into violence. These forms of harassment are not just sexist — but also racist and homophobic in nature.

 

For more information on how harassment impacts people different, please read our guide on street harassment and identity called #harassmentis.

 

Does street harassment only happen in NYC?

Street harassment happens everywhere, although our maps indicate that population density may be a factor for it.  If you think about it, this makes sense: if one out of every fifty guys you pass is going to harass you, you’ll be far more likely to experience street harassment on Wall Street than in a Walmart parking lot.

Hollaback! has 79 sites in 26 countries around the world, from Alberta, Canada to Delhi, India. Every site is working to end street harassment in their communities and support individuals who share their stories of harassment. You can check out their stories (and provide support) here.

 

Is Street Harassment a Cultural Thing?

Like all forms of gender-based violence, street harassers fall evenly across lines of race and class.  It is a longstanding myth that street harassment is a “cultural” thing, perpetrated mostly by men of color.  We believe that street harassment is a “cultural” thing in the sense that it emerges from a culture of sexism — and unfortunately — that is everyone’s culture.

 

It’s important to keep in mind that is this video only captures verbal harassment, and Rob and Shoshana can attest to the harassment overall falling evenly along race and class lines. While filming, Shoshana noted, “I’m harassed when I smile and I’m harassed when I don’t. I’m harassed by white men, black men, latino men. Not a day goes by when I don’t experience this.”

 

How do I get involved?

Share this message with your friends and donate. We can’t end this alone.

 

 

 

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You’re Fine: An Excerpt From Gina Tron’s Stunning New Memoir

The following is an excerpt from You’re Fine by Gina Tron through Papercut Press. Available online and at selected indie you're finebookstores. 

  1. MACHECHO

When I met Dr. Machecho, I found that he was not nearly as funny as his name.

“Have a seat,” he said sharply as I followed him into a small room. He was a tall, intimidating man with a cold demeanor. He sat in a chair in front of me and skimmed through some papers in a file.

“I didn’t have the chance to look at your chart yet. Why are you here?”

“Cocaine, mostly. They said I have PTSD and that I’m bipolar.” I said it all very matter of factually and with as little emotion as possible. I didn’t want him to see that I was annoyed with the place because I figured that would make him less likely to help me.

“I want to get out of here. I only got to attend two meetings here and they were not at all helpful for me.”

He was glancing down at a piece of paper that I guessed was my chart.

“So, I see you got raped.”

“Yes.”

“Next time, make sure not to put yourself in that situation again.”

“Excuse me?

“Don’t put yourself in that situation again,” he stated with the deadest of eyes.

“How do you even know I put myself into that situation?”

“Then how did it happen?” he inquired with a smirk.

“You don’t even know anything about it! I don’t have to take this bullshit! I’ve been hard enough on myself.

I stormed out of his office, ignoring his cries to stop as I walked to my room. In the corridor, I kicked over the same garbage can that I had knocked over before.

“Déjà vu,” I mumbled, giggling.

Tyler was lurking around the medication window and witnessed my tantrum.

“What happened? Are you okay?”

I told him what had occurred with Dr. Machecho and he sighed.

“What an asshole. But look, you gotta be cool with him. He’s responsible for getting you out of here. Just have him sign the papers for you.” The ex-crackhead, Tyler, had more

of a voice of reason than I did.

Dr. Machecho walked up to us. I was glaring at him and he seemed as though he was aware that he had said something wrong. I guess he thought that he could abuse me until I fought back. He was no different from all these other motherfuckers who think they can abuse whoever they want until the “victim” shows their fucking teeth. I feel like a lot of people, sometimes even people in authority, treat people they consider to be beneath them as animals. Guess if I’m an animal, I’m a koala: docile, yet vicious when provoked.

“Let’s talk,” said Dr. Machecho.

“I don’t want to talk to you! If you want to fucking talk, then talk to me in the hallway, where people can hear what you’re saying. I don’t trust you.”

He was visibly shaking. Perhaps he did not expect me to react in such a way, but I didn’t feel like I was acting that angry. My behavior was nothing compared to Natasha’s.

She’d probably punch this guy out for coughing.

“If you want to leave, then you have to sign some paperwork with me. I’ll give you whatever prescription drugs you want. And you have to promise to set up outpatient with your social worker. I’ll get the ball rolling on that. What are they giving you?”

“Paxil. Seroquel. Vistaril.”

“Okay, so I will give you a month’s worth of all those prescriptions. That should hold you over until you get a new doctor at your outpatient.”

He was very polite at this point. He spoke to me with respect, like he was talking to another human rather than a dog.

“Lovely,” I sneered. I resented him for only talking to me with respect because I had demanded it. I hated him for being a person who would, I perceive, prey on the weak. “How generous of you to give me all the drugs I want. If I get raped while on drugs that are prescribed to me, do I still deserve it?”

“You shouldn’t talk that way,” he said, “It’s unbecoming of a young lady.”

 

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HOLLA ON THE GO: Harassed while dog walking

I was walking my dog and a man yelled out the window of his house “Hey baby, what’s your name?” I kept walking and he yelled “Well fuck you too then, slut.”. What? How am I a slut for walking my dog?

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HOLLA ON THE GO: “Hey working girl…”

One guy called out to me while I was walking, “hey working girl, come over here.” Ten feet later another said to his friend, “look at the ASS on that girl in the blue dress.”

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Know Your Rights Guide

A new report released today offers the first ever global legal resource on street harassment. Led by NGO Hollaback! and the Thomson Reuters Foundation and coordinated by global law firm DLA Piper, the “Know Your Rights” guide compiles the latest legal definitions and information on all forms of street harassment across 22 countries and in 12 languages. A monumental undertaking, the guide involved the efforts of 11 legal teams working in collaboration around the world.

Check out the guide below – and check out our FAQ for more information. You can download a PDF of the guide here: Street Harassment – Know Your Rights. Photo credit: A woman walks past a building decorated with a pair of eyes in the Crimean city of Sevastopol, February 29, 2012. REUTERS/Stringer

 

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HOLLA ON THE GO: “I was counting down…”

My first day working there and a family was coming in after a funeral.
I was walking past the first group of people and one man started saying “she’s beautiful” over and over again, I ignored him and he shouted “c**t” at me.
Another groups of men kept whistling and saying “sexy arse” every time I walked past them.
I was counting down the minutes until I finished.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: Men in a truck

Going on a run around the neighboorhood and a truck of men pull up beside me n.slow down. Making all sorts of sexual comments towards me and pretending to lick my chest. Eventually I had enough and told them to fuck off but ONLY after I scared the shit out of them w my taser gun i keep on me at all times.

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Anonymous’ Story: “No one should be shamed in front of others because they did not want to be touched”

I was visiting France with classmates and at one point was walking back to meet them. Some of the men and women (college age) were waiting for everyone in a group, and some saw me and waved. As I waved back, two young men came up to me and asked me directions in French. I tried to give them directions but eventually switched to English. Once I admitted to being American they starting pulling in closer and saying how good my French was, to the point I was very uncomfortable. By the time I was able to explain I did not know where they wanted to go, they both gave me a hug and kiss (on the cheek, which I know is cultural, but still). I was rather flustered and went to the group of known friends happily.
I can accept that and move on, but it was the next part that upset me the most.
After I told them what happened, one young man chastised me for being so culturally ignorant and close-minded that I was complaining and upset over being held and kissed by two strangers! He was French himself, and explanations of personal space culture in American were dismissed because I should be trying new things. No one should be shamed in front of others because they did not want to be touched by others!

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Week in our Shoes: Rev up the Engine Edition!

streetharassmentsuxkHey Hollaback!er’s,

 

Over the last two weeks, Hollaback! has been featured in: Today, Mic, The Daily Beast, Huffington Post, NME, the New York Times, and more.

 

Hollaback! sites around the world have been busy!

 

  Hollaback! Bahamas had major press in the Tribune. Their team met with The College of the Bahamas Student Union to make plans for a Health and Safety Forum, plan a chalk walk, and hold a forum on local Equality bills. They attended a training seminar on CEDAW, attended three education forums held by the Constitutional Commission on the Equality Bills, and attended Parliament last week to see the Equality Bills tabled.
Hollaback! Berlin held a chalk walk. You can check out the chalk walk photos here.
Hollaback! Hamilton‘s site leaders were interviewed for the Hamilton Spectator (article coming out in September). Site leader Jess spoke at the Connect, Engage, Empower: Fostering exchange to support individuals affected by domestic violence.
Hollaback! Halifax tabled at a community fair after their local Pride Parade. Later on in the week, they provided backup and support to the Pro Love: www.yourchoicehalifax.com event. Check out Hollaback! Halifax’s write up of the Pro-Love demonstration hereSite leader Rebecca was interviewed by the Halifax morning news – stay tuned for links!
Hollaback! Boston participated in the Computer Clubhouse Teen Summit at Northeastern University, talking to youth about community organizing. They also held a teen workshop at a local women’s center, and tabled at the War on Women show. Finally, site leader Britni was interviewed for RH Reality Check about counterprotests outside reproductive health clinics.
Hollaback! Ottawa held a chalk walk and attended the Capital Geek Girls Ladies Night event at the Comic Book Shoppe. They also held a Municipal election meeting, titled “Let’s keep Gender Based Violence on the Agenda.”

 

Hollaback! Des Moines attended the Des Moines display of the Monument Quilt: a part of FORCE, Upsetting Rape Culture
Hollaback! Appalachian Ohio sponsored a derby car (driven by Kayla Sinclair of Athens, Ohio) in the Demolition Derbies at the Athens and Meigs County Fairs. Check out their astounding run HERE!.

 

Amazing work HOLLAs! Until next time,

 

HOLLA and out!

 

- The Hollaback! Team

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