While trying to enjoy lunch with my partner, a man at the table behind ours kept staring at me (he was in a large group of men). I slid my chair to one side, hoping to deter further staring, to no avail. I asked my partner to move to another table with me so we could continue our conversation in peace, but I still feel uncomfortable and anxious about it.
While waiting for the bus, a man drove by me twice hollering out the window at me, and twice I flipped him off. The third time he pulled over in front of my stop and began to get out of the car to help me get in for “a ride”. Apparently none of my vulgar swearing got the message across. It took a swing of my fishing knife and a smile saying “I have absolutely no problem cutting you cock off here and now.” For him to leave me alone.
I went running in my neighborhood today. A man about ten years older (I’m 15) than me hung out the window of his truck and screamed “nice tits” at me.
I was buying something in my local shop for a girl I was babysitting, when the creepy shopkeeper said, “oh, are you buying her a treat? You look like you could do with a treat”, before looking at my chest and winking. I promptly walked out of the shop, but not before I heard him say, at a regular, not hushed volume to a co-worker, “if she’s pissed, it’s not my fault, it’s hers for wearing such a low cut dress”.
This man followed me for 3-4 hours. On two occasions I caught him taking creeps shots of me with his phone. Each time I tried to move away from him within the place of business, he would creep up again within a minute, no matter which room I went to. I ended up outside in the rain trying to lose this guy but to no avail. I had to leave the premises eentirely.
While trying to catch a bus, I was approached by a man who I thought was going to ask for directions ir something. He got very close and told me that if he were to marry someone, he would marry me. I hurried off to my bus, while thinking, thank you for uninvitedly invading my personal space while I am in public space. Not OK.
I was outside of a bar with two of my girl friends. For context, I am black and they are white. An older man walks up and starts taking to us. We are polite and try to ignore him. He then turns to one of my friends and says “you know, black and white go real good together.” While this is happening, a group of men surround us and one yells to me “you know black and black go even better together! shit, I’m looking right at you girl.” We just walk away while they talk about us.
Sitting on the (nearly empty) bus, a man came and sat behind me. He greeted me and I politely greeted him too, but fully aware of where he’d be going next. “You look good,” he said. I told him no and covered up as much as I could.
It’s that time of week again! Time to find out what’s happening at Hollaback sites around the world!
Emily traveled all around this week–from Columbus, Ohio to Grand Rapids, Michigan! She spoke for both the Ohio Alliance Against Sexual Violence and the Michigan Coalition to End Domestic and Sexual Violence!
The rest of the New York office checked out the space for HOLLA::Revolution and the site leader conference to follow (The space is totally rad!!). Remember, tickets for HOLLA::Revolution are still available online! Trust us, you don’t want to miss it!
Hollaback! Around the Globe…
Check out this amazing video, “Smile for me Baby”, filmed and edited by Hollaback! supporter Ceclia Wachter.
The video has scenes from Hollaback!’s Anti-Street Harassment Rally in Washington Square Park and interviews folks who experienced and respond to street harassment.