I was at work and was heading to clock out for the night. A man from a different department ask me why I was “dragging”. I replied with “ay it’s been a long day I’m tired. He replied “oh you just need some good dick in your life and pointed to his “zone”. Not even 20 mins before this happened a different male coworker had came up to me and said “I know you got a man but I want to suck your titties. I gave him a funny look and he said “ohhh is that the face you make when you ride?”
Ummm time to go! I wrapped everything up and headed to the clock…
Before I could clear my head from the 1st conversation,the 2nd had already happened…
There’s a man that frequents this spot and has been seen standing naked on the sidewalk. Did not approach him, but stayed on Charles St. instead.
Came across a really drunk college kid one night when heading back to my dorm with my girlfriend. He asked us where Butterfield was and we told him we’d show him where. Then he must’ve noticed something about us and started asking, “Are you lesbians?” And we said, “Yes, this is my girlfriend.” He then proceed to say vulgar things and try to follow us back to our dorm. I bought pepper spray after that.
I was walking down the left side of the street and a car with two men slowed down to get my attention. Because they were across the street, I kept walking normally, thinking that the lane of oncoming traffic between us would be enough to deter them from doing anything more. Eventually the car stopped, the driver got out of the car and crossed the street to where I was. I quickly crossed to the other side and found two men willing to walk the rest of the way with me. The driver and his friend yelled at all three of us and then drove away. I hate that they only responded to the presence of other men.
I was followed, verbal harrased, and then possibly threatened (his words were hard to understand) when I asked the man to leave me alone.
The exact words uttered by a woman trying to pick me up at the club
Walking out of CVS a homeless man was yelling at another woman about my age walking towards me “you want black or white?” His friend (who I’m assuming was a different race, I at no point looked at these men) added “or you can have both, like a chocolate chip cookie.” She didn’t acknowledge them and neither did I. As I passed in front of them the first man said “hey pretty lady.” When I also didn’t respond he said “I got 99 problems but a bitch ain’t one” and proceeded to scream “BITCH!” at me until I walked out of earshot. Probably one of the more aggressive street harassers I’ve ever encountered.
I’m 17 and I had to get the bus home after school on Friday, which I don’t normally do as my mum will pick me up, but this particular day she had to work late. The bus stop is a five minute walk from my school and is located on a busy main road, however at this time there was no one else at the bus stop, so I was alone. The bus should have been due in 5 minutes, so I was just on my phone passing the time. I hear this loud car approaching and naturally look up. I see a white modified car, (the ones stereotypically driven by teenage boys who have just got their licence and think they’re impressing everyone) his window was open and his music was filling the whole street. He was about 18 and had that typical “fuck boy” look about him. As he drove past he stared at me (obviously to see whether I was impressed or not), I was thinking to my self what a dickhead. As soon as he had driven past me, I noticed he sharply pulled into a street about 50 metres up from me on the opposite side of the road, he had no indicator on and there were cars behind him, it was as if it was a last minute decision and he turned and came back down this time driving on the same side as me. I started to feel slightly uncomfortable at this point and as he approached the bus stop he slowed down in front of me, rolled down his window and stared at me again this time smirking, He then called me over to his car, I was wary and moved about 3 inches closer, he then proceeds to say to me “do you need a lift babe?” I say to him, politely , as I don’t want to piss him off, “no its fine, the bus is due now” , he replies with “no, why wait on the bus when I can’t give you a lift, seriously get in sweetheart”. I tell him again that it is fine, with a more assertive tone, and move back to where I was originally standing. He then says “seriously its no problem, just get in, please, the bus might be late, come on”. At this point I was starting to get annoyed at his persistence and end up saying angrily “I said no the first time, I don’t want a lift, please leave me alone”. This clearly annoys him as he goes on to shout “fine then you fucking bitch, I only stopped because you were hot, you should be fucking grateful”. I tell him to fuck off and expect him to drive off in a huff, but instead he stays on and changes his tone of voice and pleads “look please let me give you a lift, you’ll regret it if you don’t, I’ll show you a good time”. I’m still unsure of what exactly he meant by “show you a good time” but I ignored him and started praying for the bus to arrive. In one final attempt, even after calling me a “fucking bitch” he goes “can I at least have your number then?” and at exactly the right moment the bus arrives and he has to move off. I felt very violated and powerless in this situation, as no matter how many times I said “no” he still persisted and hurled abuse at me because I stood my ground. I’m now frightened to stand at that stretch of road , in case he passes me again and the same thing happens.
2 Guys working on some new cabling in road leered, smiled, and said ‘alright?’ I didn’t feel complimented. I know from years of experience that if you don’t please men doing this they will become hostile. Thankfully in this particular and rare case when I ignored them they said nothing but it felt very unpleasant and I know they won’t have been thinking ‘oh she doesn’t want this and that’s ok!’ You still feel stressed and on guard because it usually involves a sexist or hostile action.
So I just remembered something that didn’t annoy me before but now that I know a bit more about street harassment it does. After the second time I was harassed which was at a movie theatre.(a guy was talkin a bout my friend, my cousin, and my butts.) I decided to tell my mom and he response was: “I bet you were wearing shorts huh?.” At the time I was like yeah, and kind of felt a bit ashamed. Now I’m like so that gives them permission to talk to me that way. Ugh, why do people think like that? I dress for me not for you!