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I was pumping gas at the local Chevron station when I heard someone say “Do you work out?” Then I heard someone else say, “Yeah, she works out.” I turned around and saw two men in their 30’s I’d say, leaning out of their windows staring at me and smiling and laughing.
I said, “Are you talking to me?” they said “Yes,” and I said, “Don’t talk to women like that, it’s disrespectful,” and they said, “No, it’s not,” and I said, “I’m sorry that your socialized masculinity has robbed you of your humanity,” and they said, “We’re just being guys,” and I said “I know, that’s what I said, you’re so busy being a ‘man’ you forgot to be human,” and one of the guys ACTUALLY STARTED BARKING AT ME LIKE A DOG.
I guess the point was that I was being a “bitch” by daring to question their right to harass me freely. Or that they were lusting animals. Then the other guy said, “Were just being men and you’re a women,” and I said, “I’m just being human and you’re not.” They drove off laughing. As I type this, I’m STILL SHAKING WITH RAGE. The entitlement of these men was so insulting. Even more heartbreaking is the way they slandered all males with their “boys will be boys” excuse for their bad manners and entitlement. Males like that give “men” a bad name.
I was taking an hour-long walk and enjoying the long overdue sunshine. It was a really zen and beautiful moment for me. I got close to a hawk that was on a low branch on my college campus and thought about how much I love animals because they generally don’t bother people. I’d been honked at already by three male drivers I’d mistakenly made eye contact with. It startled me and made me angry every time.
I was halfway back to my apartment when a guy started revving up his motorcycle at the sight of me. I rolled my eyes while crossing the intersection and he yelled, “Tryin’ to get raped?!”
He continued yelling things at me until the light changed. Blood was rushing too loud in my ears for me or hear the rest. All I keep thinking is that I hope his fragile ego overtakes him and he dies in a wreck of his own causing.
On my 12 minute walk to and from work, I get 5 honks per day on average. It’s a frustrating experience, and a horrible way to start and/or end my day. I wish I could tell which cars they come from when traffic is heavy so I could tell them how disrespectful and disgusting it is.
It was about 11 pm and my sister and I were about to carpool to go visit my mom since she had just been in the hospital. My sister was about to get in my car when I heard a few whistles coming from the porch of someone’s house. I told them they were being disrespectful and to stop. As soon as I got back in my car they started up again.
Walking to the train station, someone in a car slows down to wolf whistle at me, laughs and makes revolting ‘kissy’ motions at me when I flip him off.
Company vehicle, crowded street (with kids) and he knew he’d get away with it. This is the culture women have to put up with. Demeaning and dehumanizing.
Some creep kept hanging out in the gas station parking lot near my bus stop and asking me (repeatedly) if I (sweetie, baby) needed a ride. When he backed his car up from the exit; parked his car behind me; and walked by, he asked again. I said I was waiting for the bus. When he returned, he continued to just sit there watching me. I am tired of this when I am just trying to get to work.
We all need help sometimes. This is a college town. I don’t have a lot of money. I get food stamps. One day, I was at the Department of Social and Health Services office, feeling super down and upset because I’m struggling and I had to go in for a review to renew my benefits. After I left the building I was on the phone in my parked car. This grey van pulls up next to me and this CREEP is just staring at me. This old, heavy man with grey hair and glasses just sits there looking at me
My girlfriend and I walked towards a square, we had to cross a road. Two boys on a scooter saw us holding hands and when they passed, they spat on us. I was flabbergasted.
I am a Muslim woman living in Kuwait and I cover from head to toe in black, including a face veil that shows only the eyes. In the mornings I like to park in a public park near the sea to meditate in my car. This is the second time the same guy approached me in his car, parking next to me and staring at me. Today I took some photos and got his car plate number and am considering reporting it to the police. What bothers me is that I felt unsafe and I drove away, abandoning my meditation session. If it happens again, I will take more photos, stand my ground and honk the horn until hopefully HE leaves.
I feel so violated by their eyes. I live in a campus housing. I was getting out of the gym and I was wearing shorts and a t shirt, and as I turned the corner to exit, a bench was there and a man was sitting on the bench. He looked at my ass, then back at me without any wavering eyes. He just smiled at me and smirked at me, he didn’t even bother to look away. There was a long straight pathway to get back to my apartment, and he just stared at me the whole time even as I walked away into the distance. Another time I was at my school’s gym, and there were windows. I was on the Stairmaster, and custodians stopped doing their job to pause and look at my ass.. They were there for a good 5-10 minutes. I was stricken with fear. Ever since then I’ve been very uncomfortable around men who look at me like that, I have might have developed a bit of paranoia.
It’s really intimidating when two guys are staring at you and you’re outnumbered. It’s scary being alone and having to be stared down by guys you don’t even fucking know. They could do something to you, you know? So I just have to quickly finish what I came to do in whatever store and get the hell out of there. It’s a normalized experience, “Men do it all the time!” There is a difference, creeps.