(h/t to Hollaback! Mumbai for finding and posting this! We couldn’t agree more.)
I was walking down the street and a boy tried to talk to me (he was with a group of other boys). He asked if he was “valid” (or good enough) to talk to, and I responded “no, I have a boyfriend.” He then said “[email protected] your boyfriend, what does he have to do with me, I’m not talking about him. This is why I can’t stand harlem b*tches (the boys joined in by laughing).” I asked “harlem what?” and his friend responded “harlem girls.” The boy then repeated “harlem b*tches” and went on to say, “your on my block talking, I should get you jumped. I’m about to violate you right now.” I tried to verbally defend myself, but then decided to cross the street.
Up and Coming: Today is my birthday, and I’m celebrating with the launch of our “I’ve Got Your Back” campaign next Thursday! Join me at The Branded Saloon, 603 Vanderbilt Avenue in Brooklyn on March 22 from 6pm until 10pm. You can RSVP here.
SXSW Interactive: I had the opportunity to go to SXSW Interactive this year, thanks to a scholarship from SXSW on our work at the intersection of tech and social change. It was a blast. I stayed with HollabackNYC co-founder Kaja Trejak (you know, the one who convinced us in 2005 to start calling it ‘street harassment
instead of ‘catcalling,’ despite the fact no one used the term in those days), and I got to meet with Ashoka, the Instructional Telecommunications Foundation, the Knight Foundation, Causevox, the Daily Worth, and the Ford Foundation while I was in town.
Out and About: Last week, Hollaback got to attend the Women in the World summit at New York City’s Lincoln Center. It was great to be in the presence of 2,000 inspiring women and girls who are making the world a better place to grow up as woman.
In the Press: It’s been a big week for press! The Huffington Post included me in their list of 20 powerhouse women alongside Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Rachel Maddow, Diane Sawyer, Sonia Sotomayor, and more! Earlier this week, I wrote an article for RH Reality Check on how we’re changing the way we deal with street harassment.
Around the World: Hollaback! Istanbul is teaming up with the US Consulate General to bring the award-winning documentary “Miss Representation” to Istanbul next week during International Anti-Street Harassment Week.
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Thanks to @giuliarozzi for sending this our way!
For the record, we love white dudes. We were co-founded in part by white dudes, we’ve got white dudes on our board, and we’ve seen some incredible white dude advocates. But you’ll have to pardon our frustration. If one more white dude tells us street harassment doesn’t exist we’re going to blow our top. Until then, we’ll just make fun of you with memes.
A trending hashtag on Twitter right now, #ididnotreport, is offering a powerful outlet for anyone who has experienced sexual violence but did not come forward to report it. As Emily May pointed out in her recent article, “Bringing Sexual Harassment Above the Radar,” there are a multitude of reasons why people don’t report — be it a fear of not being taken seriously, having little faith in the justice system, or because victims aren’t aware of their rights, societies too often protect harassers and rapists over victims.
And for those of you who have been living under a rock, on-line activism works. While #ididnotreport may not topple dictatorships, it can provide survivors of sexual abuse and victims of sexual harassment a mountain to shout their stories from — and when survivors speak up, that can be just as powerful.
I live in UP, North India. It’s a bad place for eve teasing! In my home town which is so small and peaceful, you still get roadside romeos who think it’s a big turn on to follow you home on their bikes yelling things at you all the way. Then when they’ve had enough and are bored they say “Sorry, just having fun!” and zoom off!
Also get all kinds of harassment from every guy who walks past when you go to a park. No matter what you wear, they are drawn like moths to a flame. In shopping malls I have been followed and harassed. These guys just can’t understand why you are scared and have no desire to talk to some stranger who is following you around!
Even older men are up to these tricks. And once common thing you will get is that when you walk past someone will start to sing or play on their phone a raunchy song from some movie. It’s horrible. You feel like everyone is staring at you like a piece of meat.
In places other than my hometown, I have experienced groping. Some guy once followed me trying to talk to me and when I told him to leave me alone he lunged forward and grabbed my breast hard for a moment before racing away. It was painful physically and frustrating too because I didn’t even have time to yell. I felt so used and abused afterwards.
These men should understand how frightening and humiliating it is to go outside on your own streets and be treated this way. It is not a compliment to be noticed, it is exhausting and frustrating to only be seen as a sex object. Would they like their sister, mothers, wives and daughters to be treated that way? I am sick of so many noticing that I am a female with a female body and staring at that as if it is theirs for the taking. I dream of a world where my mind and my actions are more important.
Jeep pulled over, called me a whore like 4 times, and when I turned around and said what did you say? They said one two three, “WHORE you retard.”
BY EMILY MAY
Hello Hollaback! supporters! Check out this week’s news and updates from the exciting world of Hollaback! and our endeavors to stamp out street harassment.
Up and Coming: The launch of our “I’ve Got Your Back” campaign is only two weeks away! Join as we celebrate international anti-street harassment week at The Branded Saloon, 603 Vanderbilt Avenue in Brooklyn on March 22 from 6pm until 10pm. You can RSVP here. Also, We are getting an MYD Engendering progress award on March 21, at Greenhouse, 150 Varick Street in Manhattan, buy your tickets here. And last but not least we are collaborating with Women’s eNews for a special screening of “War Zone” on April 16.
Out and About: Natalie and I met with councilmembers Julissa Ferreras and Jessica Lappin, and Veronica and I attended a networking event to annouce FRIDA: The Young Feminist Fund at the ASTREA foundation.
In the Press: Author, founding director of the Solutions Journalism Network, and HOLLAfriend Courtney Martin wrote mentioned us as a best practice in her Co.Exist article: “Three Lessons on the Wrong Ways to Use Social Media to Create Change.”
Thanks for another fantastic week of fighting street harassment — you make this all possible!
HOLLA and out!