This Sundress is Not for You

Cross Posted from Hips and Hangers

I want to take a minute to talk about something serious- street harassment. I’ve never met a woman that hasn’t had to deal with cat calls, whistles, and/or unwanted advances at some point in her life. It’s something I face about 2-3 times a week as part of my commute to work. Most days I can shrug it off with a witty remark, but Tuesday I dealt with five separate instances of street harassment.

1. 9:00am- On the platform at the train station:  “Good morning beautiful”. I sigh, roll my eyes and walk away.

2. 9:20am- On the bus a guy sits super close and says “hey baby, how’s your day going?”. I say “It was going fine until you invaded my personal space” and change seats.

3. 9:25am- Walking from the bus to work, I get honked at and whistled at by a truck full of workers. The driver almost hits a biker because he isn’t watching the road. I give them the finger and shout “watch the road”. One of the men calls me a stupid bitch.

4. 2:45pm- Out of work early for the Holiday and excited to go meet up with my guy for a late lunch, I’m walking quickly to the bus. While waiting at an intersection for the walk signal a guy says “Excuse me” thinking he’s going to ask me for directions, I acknowledge him. He follows up with “where’s your boyfriend pretty girl.” I say “Please leave me alone loudly” and cross the street.

5. 9pm- Walking with my boyfriend enjoying the beautiful summer evening listening to him tell a funny story when I am distracted by kissy noises and calls of “damn, girl” and “hey sexy” from three men sitting on a stoop. I glare at them, drop my boyfriend’s arm and say “You’ve got to be kidding me.” He looks confused because he didn’t hear any of it. I explain what happened and that I would have said something back to them had he not been with me. They outnumbered him 3 to 1, and I didn’t want to start anything. I then vent to him about my day. I’m shocked that this happened with him. Normally men don’t bother you if you appear to “belong” to someone else.


By the end of the day I felt unsafe, pissed, annoyed, anxious, and sad.

I don’t know what it is that makes some men think that I get dressed for them in the morning, but I don’t. I get dressed for me. This sundress is for me! Women deserve to live in a culture where we can walk freely in our communities without fear of harassment or assault.


Sarah’s Story: “The man had the same response to my body as a sandwich company would like you to react to their subs”

Pretty mundane, I suppose, but as I was walking to work the other day, in a modest though flattering outfit, I passed a man outside a bodega who regarded me with “mm mm mm mm mm!” – the same intonations as a Quizno’s commercial. Perhaps the product placement wasn’t exactly the connection he intended to make, but I literally carried for the rest of the day the fact that the man had the same response to MY BODY as a SANDWICH COMPANY would like you to react to their subs.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: New submission from phone app

Gettin on the Blue Line & this youngish guy gives me a predatory look & says “I see you been workin out” He gets up from across the aisle to come sit next to me. I immediately get up & move across the train. He mutters “I’m sorry” as I get up. Leave me alone! I’m tired from work & don’t need this.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: New submission from phone app

Guy walking behind me and my friend mumbling something. We turned around and he said, “Sorry but you fine!”

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HOLLAinterview with Maggie Hadleigh-West, Director of War Zone


Recently, we spoke with Maggie Hadleigh-West, filmmaker of the fascinating 1998 street harassment documentary film, War Zone.   As Maggie describes on her website, War Zone is about “sex, power and what happens when men—either knowingly or unknowingly—threaten a woman’s right to walk undisturbed on the streets.”  In shooting the documentary, Maggie turned her camera on catcallers, giving us all a peek into the mind of the harasser.  Here’s what Maggie had to say about her activism, what inspires her, and War Zone, her amazing videoHOLLA:

Most importantly, where can we find War Zone?, or my website if you just want to see the trailer,

Tell us a bit about how you got involved in activism and the street harassment movement.

Well, for as long as I can remember I’ve been an activist. My first feminist outrage was realizing I was going to probably have to change my name when I married some guy! I was about 6.  Also I grew up with two brothers and a very sexist father so from the beginning I was very clear that there was an extreme inequity.  The first time I remember championing anything was I was in elementary school, and I was defending kids that were mentally challenged. That was second grade or something like that.

As for street harassment, I became pretty outraged about street abuse some time in my early 20’s, and when I moved to New York in my late 20’s, I became really crazed about it!

Is that awareness what inspired you to film War Zone? Was there a specific trigger point?

It was a combination of that awareness and some experiences in my personal life—I had a boyfriend at the time that I really loved, and he really didn’t seem to understand the impact street harassment had on me.  I would talk to him about my experiences, particularly about a specific group of men in the neighborhood who repeatedly harassed me, and my boyfriend recommended that I carry mace and spray the guys.  I remember thinking to myself, “this guy who loves me doesn’t understand the threat of street harassment or how it impacts my feeling of safety. These guys know where I live!” and I knew that was also true of other men in my family.  It occurred to me that most men probably didn’t quite “get it” either.  That was my early inspiration, although I didn’t really know what I was going to do about it.  Then one day I bought a camera.  I woke up the next morning and thought “Oh. Now I have a weapon!”

Interesting, so the film just sort of developed out of your growing interest and conversations you had about street harassment.

Yea. That’s generally how I work on all my films.  “Player Hating: A Love Story,” my most recent film, developed right out of War Zone.  I noticed that many of the men who were on the streets were disenfranchised men, and I started to think about how those men dealt with the disenfranchisement they felt from the overall culture.

That lack of understanding about the impact of street harassment that you mentioned earlier seems unfortunately widespread—in a news interview about War Zone, I saw a reporter describe street harassment as “street flirting.” What did you think of that?

Well, he, like many, was just ignorant of the impact of street harassment.  And sadly, for some men, they do think of their harassment as flirting.

Your film really did capture the wide range of how men view their harassment.  What do you think of as the most memorable moment or interaction captured in War Zone?

Probably Joe, the guy at the end of the movie.  When I filmed him I wasn’t actually shooting for the movie—when I turned on the camera I had thought of it as collecting evidence because I was certain he was a predator. So I was in a totally different frame of mind compared to the rest of the movie.  I was calm during regular shooting because I was gathering information, not trying to protect myself and other women.

Do you have any other memorable street harassment stories that you can share with us?

I have so many.  One of the most surprising was when a seven year old boy harassed me, referencing my body parts, and it was just so clear he was copying something he’d heard from an older man.  Another time, there was a guy on my street who I always tried to ignore because he was a drug dealer, and one day I was wearing a man’s winter coat as I passed him by.  He called out to me “Baby, you’re getting fatter!” and I turned around and said “You’re getting stupider!” and we actually both started laughing.  Another time I was on the subway, and I saw some young boys target me, and one kid walked up to me.   He didn’t say anything but just took a physical stance and stepped into my personal space.  I didn’t move at all, and he was about 10 inches from my face when I just smiled really big at him and said “WHASSUP!!” And he just burst out laughing.  Another story I can relay happened to a friend– a guy was getting aggressive with her, she got scared and wasn’t sure what to do, so she turned around and yelled really load in his face, “DO YOU KNOW THE TIME??!!” And I think that just seemed so crazy that it worked in terms of him leaving her alone.

So you have definitely seen a wide range of types of harassing behaviors.  What do you think is the best way for people to combat street harassment?

Just get out of the space—to me, safety is the most important thing, because of the relationship between street abuse and sexual assault, rape, and murder.  It can be a very direct trajectory sometimes.  Also using non-confrontational, non-aggressive, classic “sexual assault” language, like “stay away,” “I’m not interested in you,” being definitive but not escalating the situation, and then absolutely reporting the incident later on.

We’re all about reporting! Do you remember how you first heard about Hollaback?

Yes, some of the founding members of Hollaback had contacted me about War Zone a few years back when it had just begun.

It’s a great video resource.  Do you have any other favorite resources on street harassment that you’d recommend?

“Back Off” by Martha Langelan was a good resource years ago, but I’d don’t know if it’s been updated-or even if it needs to be, but I really think Hollaback is the best resource.

Thanks! So what else do you think everyone should know about street harassment?

I feel like the most important thing that isn’t addressed a lot is reporting things to the police, or to organizations like Hollaback, when women are harassed.  It’s just so common, and so rarely reported, and I think that increasing reporting is going to be one of the things that will eventually change everything.



Anonymous’s Story: You just had to speed up?

While I don’t recommend taking pictures while you drive, I got so upset after this truck sped up to be next to my car just to honk. Yes, I get it, I’m wearing a dress. It’s 101 degrees outside, after all. The worst part? I can see the future when it comes to street harassment.

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HOLLAtoon of the Week: Harassment or Heat Stroke?

Just because the temperature is rising, doesn’t mean that street harassment has to.

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Shout Out to Everyone Who Donated to Hollaback!’s College Campus Campaign


Dear Hollabackers,


We would like to give a special thanks to everyone who donated to our Indiegogo campaign against campus harassment. We have been busy mailing out Hollaback! tote bags, Hollaback! stickers, and cool “I’ve Got Your Back Pins” to our awesome donors. We also sent Hollaback t-shirts to our social media contest winners. We hope that you wear your new Hollaback! gear with pride, knowing that you are helping bring awareness to campus and street harassment. We are now one step closer to ending sexual harassment on college campuses and around the world.

Here’s some more very exciting news for you: New York University will soon become the first college to host its own on-campus Hollaback! The launch of NYU’s Hollaback! is slated for this coming fall, and the team here at Hollaback! headquarters is looking forward to working closely with the NYU site leaders over the course of the coming school year. You can follow Hollaback! NYU on Twitter

Or join their Facebook page here:

This summer, we’ll be working on creating how-to guides and educational resources so that even more students can bring Hollaback! to their college campuses in the future!


HOLLA and out-

Hollaback Interns


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Mollie’s story: “We kept saying we weren’t interested, and he kept asking us”

Some time ago, in high school, two female friends and I were sitting in the rain shelter at the station waiting for our train, when a man walked into the doorway of the shelter, blocking it. He told us we were pretty, and asked for our names, which we didn’t give him. He asked where we were going, still blocking the doorway, and we gave him the intentionally-ambiguous “the mall”. I don’t recall how we answered when he asked which mall, but we didn’t tell him.

Then he changed tactic a little, told us we were pretty again, and asked if any of us “would be interested in going out with [his] friends”. We were pretty visibly horrified, and he tried to convince us by saying we’d “make them happy” and that they’d “buy [us] stuff, like iPods and stuff”. We kept saying we weren’t interested, and he kept asking us if we were sure for a while, but thankfully he eventually gave up and got out of the doorway and walked off.

I had this plan that if he looked like he was going to try and follow us onto the train, we could fake out getting on, then get back off the train at the last minute and wait for the next one, even though they ran at hour intervals. Thankfully, though, he wandered off to the other side of the station and we never saw him again.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: New submission from phone app

Waiting for the 66 bus. Man sits down next to me on the bench and tells me how much he likes my “huge tits” and that I’m “way hotter than skinny bitches in the clubs”.

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