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Leah’s Story: Harassment Steeped in Transphobia

Just for context, I’m a trans woman, socially transitioned but very early in medical transition. Although I don’t like the term, I ‘pass’ some of the time, but have tended to get the most harassment/unpleasant comments on public transport, where I’m stuck in close proximity with a group of other people for a while. I’ve had a few incidents this year – several unpleasant comments, and one case where I got followed off the train by someone – but this is the first incident that really shook me.

I was sitting on a central line train to Bank at around 6:50pm, when a group of three men got on next to me – one sat down next to me, while the others stood around him. At first, they were just snickering among themselves, and I didn’t really notice what they were talking about – I’ve felt safest by simply ignoring people in the past, and so generally just listen to a story or music on my headphones. After a while, though, they began to talk more loudly, pointing at me, making ‘jerking off’ motions, and leering at me. I couldn’t get the gist of what they were saying – I think they were speaking in Italian? – but I got a strong impression from their body language and from little I understood that they were making mocking/sexualised remarks against me. I hope that mentioning this is in line with Hollaback’s anti-discrimination policy – I appreciate why this exists, but think this is worth mentioning because it helps explain why I didn’t want to react to what they were doing at this stage, either in terms of confronting them or trying to move down the crowded train – I was scared of confronting them in any case, and, if they hadn’t been discussing me, I’d have felt really embarrassed and self conscious, and perhaps would have caused them to actually start harassing me. I’m a fairly small person, and react quite badly to this kind of physical situation, and so continued to pretend it wasn’t happening.

After this had gone on for a few minutes, they began to talk directly to me (in English), asking me ‘what’s under your skirt’ and telling me to ‘go home with them, and they’d show me a good time’. I didn’t respond or acknowledge them, and had my headphones on to try to block them out, but rather than losing interest, they got a bit more aggressive, asking if I was a ‘perv’ and a ‘ladyguy’ – still trying to proposition me, but in a more demeaning and unpleasant manner. I felt uncomfortable and unsafe at this point, because I was stuck next to them by the rush hour crowd, two of them were standing over me, and none of the other passengers had given any impression that they had heard anything the matter. Finally, the train arrived at Bank, where I got off and they stayed on the train, but as I stood up, one of the two standing guys grabbed and squeezed my crotch area through my skirt. Especially in light of their earlier comments, this made me feel really uncomfortable – I was really worried by the way they kept alternating between sexual harassment and transphobia – but was also really bad for my dysphoria, because I feel really awful about my genitalia and don’t want strangers (or anyone for that matter) grabbing/outing me.

This happened two weeks ago (16/7/14), and I’ve been mulling over whether or not I wanted to do anything about this. On the one hand, it was really upsetting, and I want to do something about it – this isn’t the first time something like this has happened, but it’s been the first time someone’s actually tried to physically rather than verbally harass me – but on the other, the strain of transitioning hasn’t really left me with many emotional resources to pursue this. Having to jump through a million hope with gatekeepers etc., going out every day in a body I hate being read by most people as a ‘confused weirdo’ (at best) has really exhausted me, and I don’t want to have to go through all the strain of pushing BTP to do much about it.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: Invading my personal space

Man approached me late at night, invading my personal space and calling me “baby,”

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HOLLA ON THE GO: Leery Creep

Man leered at me as I walked home and made comments about my breasts.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: “One walk. Four blocks. Three separate incidences of street harassment…”

One walk. Four blocks. Three separate incidences of street harassment by three separate “men.”

1. Smile for me, Baby
2. Hmmm hmmm and other moaning noises
3. Man told me to smile at him so he can give me “something to stick in my mouth”

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Ellen’s Story: Harassed After a Long Day at Work

I wanted to join a charity 5 mile walk on a Saturday at 10:30am. But I worked night shift the night before. After talking to the charity I decided that I would get out of work at 7:30am, drive home and walk as soon as I got home. I made it into town and a car carrying two young men. When they drove by the one hollered ” Cheese hog! “. I was overweight at the time. They had no idea that I was walking for charity alone after working a twelve hour night shift as a nurse. I was humiliated.

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Tabetha’s Story: “I’m Sick of Feeling Like an Object”

First let me say I have a boyfriend whom I love. The attention he gives me is pure and kind and he’s wonderful. However, attention from anyone but him makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and dirty.
The other day, I was biking home from my job and was almost home when a car full of guys slows down as it drives past me. They start to call out to me and whistle and hollar out things like “hottie! Over here!” They were waving me over with their arms. I was so confused because I didn’t understand why they thought that would work! I got home not long after and I couldn’t get out of my head feelings of guilt and sadness. I felt dirty and like I was a slut… Even though I hadn’t done anything wrong! I’m sick of feeling like an object males think they can pick up and use.

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HOLLA ON THE GO: “I firmly and disapprovingly made eye contact as I kept walking”

I left my house in Leon, Nicaragua at 6pm. At 6pm and 5 secs, 2 guys rode by on a bike (same bike, one on the handle bars). 1 of the guys started staring at me moving his tongue around his hand like he was giving oral sex. I firmly & disapprovingly made eye contact as I kept walking. I wish I could have pushed them off their bike, but it probably wouldn’t have been safe or changed anything. How cowardly people are when they can ride away quickly. And how grossly violating. Sad, sad men.

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A Week in Our Shoes

Week in Our Shoes: Making the Impossible Possible Edition

Hey Hollabackers!

This week, Hollaback! was featured in The Week Magazine, NY Daily News, Voice of San Diego, Londonist, The Huffington Post, and Take Part.

At the mothership, Deputy Director, Debjani Roy, spoke at a press conference about the harassment of women and LGBT folks on public transit.

We would like to say THANK YOU to our Summer Interns from the Moxie Project at Duke Engage. Thanks, Jessica and Rebecca for all of your hard work in keeping the movement going!

Here’s what HOLLAs around the world have been up to:

Hollaback! Boston testified at the Legislative hearing for the Safe Access Bill, which works to reinstate a buffer zone that ensures everyone can access reproductive healthcare safely, which ended up being passed! They also co-sponsored the Supreme Rally in support of the bill, and hosted their summer Take Back The Bar event which was great!

Hollaback! Bmore is hosting Make Your Own Quilt Square! this weekend to support survivors of rape and abuse. If you’re in the area, make sure to stop by!

Hollaback! Berlin’s site leader Julie Brilling will be hosting a talk later today, called Awesome Comebacks to Street Harassment. So if you’re in the area, make sure to check it out! Also, Julie Brilling and was featured in the magazine, Lisa, along with Hollaback for their “Women of the Week” section. Keep up the great work Julie!

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Hollaback! Philly will be taking over Comic Con! They will be doing a safety audit this weekend along with interviewing cosplayers taking

signatures on their petition. Hollaback! Philly was also featured in the LA Times. Their comic con harassment piece was the comic con cover story for opening day. Awesome indeed!

Hollaback! Appalachian Ohio hosted 5 workshops at Athens Rock Camp for Girls, including one on media literacy, two on street harassment and bystander intervention, and two on assertive communication and self defense, for 25 girls ages 12-18. They also did did a one hour training on Hollaback! and bystander intervention for 10 folks getting trained to run the crisis line for Ohio University Survivor Advocacy’s Outreach Program for Meigs, Athens, and Perry Counties! Great work, guys!

Hollaback! Melbourne participated in the Wicked Camper Thingy protest, where they protested a company that supplies travellers with vans that has ridiculous sexist, homophobic and racist slogans on them from Queensland. Great work!

Hollaback! Brussels got a shout out on the Stop Street Harassment Blog! Check the awesome article here!

Hollaback! Belfast’s volunteer, Orlaith Hendron, won the LGBT Advocate of the Year for Belfast Pride! Congrats! They will also be in the Pride Parade on Saturday!

Contiune the great work HOLLAs! Til next time-

HOLLA and out!

-The Hollaback! Team

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Tamsin’s Story: “R.E.S.P.E.C.T…find out what it means to me…”

I once asked a boyfriend why guys whistle at girls and he said because they are cowards and don’t have the guts to ask the girl out.

I repeated the same to a guy in a truck once who so sleazily whistled at me. I stepped up onto the stairs of his truck, told him what my guy said and he was humiliated…. LMFAO.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T… find out what it means to me …

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Denelle’s Story: “I pretended I didn’t hear and continued on my way.”

During my “year out” backpacking through Europe, I left the hostel with a daypack and was strolling down the street where food and things were for sale. I was eating a banana (my breakfast) and 2 Mid-Eastern men said (in fractured English for my benefit), “She’s so fat, she eats a banana.”
Well, not only was it ignorant of my situation, but that they said it so I’d understand it infuriated me. But I pretended I didn’t hear and continued on my way. It still bothers me even though I ended up losing almost 90 pounds during that year, just by walking everywhere and eating healthy “picnic-style” for most of my meals.

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