Devon’s Story: “I just didn’t know what else to do”

As I was walking to school around 9:30am yesterday morning (Thursday, October 28), I passed two men sitting in a car parked alongside the curb.(They looked to be in their 30’s.) As I passed them, they yelled “Hey!” from the parked car. I turned and looked behind me because I was startled, but realized I was just being cat-called as usual so I ignored them and continued walking.

Suddenly the two men pulled the car away from the curb and pulled up next to me me, driving slowly alongside me as I walked. They started shouting to me from the car “Excuse me, Miss! Can you please spare a moment of your time?”

I continued walking for a minute, trying to ignore them, but they were still following me, so I turned as I was walking and said in a clearly threatening tone, “What’s up?” The man who was driving asked me “What’s your name?”

“I don’t have time for this. Fuck off!” I replied.

“Fuck off?”

“Yes, FUCK OFF!” I yelled.

“Well fuck you, too, bitch!” They shouted. “I hope you have a SHITTY ass day you fat-ass bitch!” and sped away up the street, cursing and flipping me off.

I know I shouldn’t have said anything, but I just didn’t know what else to do. I was completely alone. There was no one around to help me. It seemed pointless to call 9-1-1 because they wouldn’t have been able to get to me in time, and I was afraid if the men saw I had a smart phone they would get out of the car and try to rob me or worse. I wish I could feel proud of myself for telling them to leave me alone, but instead I’m just thankful that they didn’t get out of the car and hurt me or kidnap me.

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  1. R. Zora says:

    Here’s the thing: in situations like this, when men behave in obviously predatory ways (following you, completely disregarding your ‘keep-away-from-me’ body language and actions), sometimes the best thing you can do is to act assertively. I think you did the right thing, here.

    And maybe the attitude you gave them will stop them from harassing other women in the future.

  2. Enna says:

    I agree with R.Zora. If they can’t take the hint don’t be scared in telling them were to get off. Isn’t it amazing the way such creeps go from wanting you then when you stand up for yourself they don’t want to know?

  3. Joee says:

    I think Enna has something there and it seems to be in-keeping with the predatory behavior these men exhibit. They’re all for randomly proclaiming to you that you’re sexy, hot, what-have-you, when they perceive you as being unguarded or submissive, but the moment you become assertive or dominant they’re quick to defensively insult the very aspect of you they just “complimented.” It reminds me of predatory animals in the wild; they prey on the animal they see as easiest to catch, but the moment that animal stands its ground they give up the chase. The psychology of some of these predatory men isn’t much different than an animal, to be frank. The only difference is, those men get insulted when you aren’t receptive to their predatory behavior.

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