Marissa’s Story: “I feel uncomfortable going out there now”

I’m 14. I live in East Tennessee. At my high school, It’s not uncommon for guys to whistle at girls walking around, but as I’m not the most attractive girl or “well-blessed” in the development department, I’ve never experienced it.
I live in a relatively small neighborhood, with a few teenagers that are all my age there. One is a year younger than me and lives right across the street. I see him out a lot, but I only talked to him the day he moved in.
Today, I was skateboarding down my driveway and around my neighborhood, and while I was making my way up my driveway, he came out. About half-way up my driveway, I glanced over my shoulder and he was turned toward me, and starting making screeching noises and rolling his tongue at me. He made noises like that until I got up to my garage and when I got inside, I looked out the window and he was standing in the same spot, looking at my house.
I feel uncomfortable going out there now. I just want to skateboard, but I’m really easily embarrassed and I feel awkward.


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  1. retrojayne says:

    I’m so sorry to hear this- but please know that behavior like that has nothing to do with you or anything you did or didn’t do. It isn’t that only “pretty” or “sexy” girls get harassed, those terms are subjective. Harassers do what they do because they can; it’s bullying, plain and simple. This boy needed to feel like he had power somehow so he tried to make you feel uncomfortable and take some of your power away. The next time he does this, roll your eyes and say “What is WRONG with you?” and then go inside and find your parents/guardians or other adults immediately. He should feel the shame, not you. You didn’t do anything wrong. If he continues to stand outside your house, call the police. It’s your neighborhood too. xo.

  2. Gene says:

    First, you need to protect yourself. That uncomfortable feeling you had was your survival instinct telling you there is something wrong and you need to be aware of it. When you feel threatened, get somewhere safe and tell your parents.

    Second, it’s your parents’ job to protect you from the world until you are able to do so for yourself. Sadly, many do not accept this responsibility. but I hope yours do. Tell them every time something like this happens so they may deal with it. As has been repeated on this site, if nothing is done to correct the behavior, it will continue and get worse.

    Third, I’m sorry you were subjected to this; it should not happen to anyone.

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