Fiona’s Story: “I wish I was able to walk around and not feel like I will be assaulted.”

I was walking to my summer camp this morning when I was harassed. First off, I would just like to state that I am a 13 year old girl. I don’t dress provocatively, and the same goes for today. I was wearing a knee length dress with a baggy sweater over it. I was also talking on the phone with my mom, like I always do to feel safer when I walk around by myself. I was walking down the street, and during a lull in my conversation with my mom, I noticed two men (mid 30s, medium build, average height) standing near a truck. Their eyes seemed to glaze over as they looked at my butt and legs, and one commented, “Damn, I’d like to smoke that shit.” I have no idea what it meant, but it didn’t feel right. I felt violated, but I kept walking. I regret not saying and doing all the things that I’ve trained myself to do, like flipping them off or humiliating them. I have been harassed so many other times, but I’ve never had a man say that he’s wanted to do sexual things to me. I wish I was able to walk around and not feel like I will be assaulted. Why are men such animals?

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  1. Katrina says:

    For 13, your writing is very articulate. :) Just know that you, nor anyone, deserves to be treated this way. But also remember that not ALL men are ‘animals’.

    Take care!

  2. Enna says:

    I agree with Katrina, some men are monsters, animals etc but some men are nice. It’s not right what that man said to you but you could take this as an example and work out some responses for next time. I bet you could do 100 times better then those idiots. You sound far more articulate and intelliagnet then them and your only 13! I’m a great one for thinking up things to say after it has happened. e.g. “are you talking about that dog turd over there sir?”

  3. Beth says:

    Hey there,

    It’s sad but often men who need to harass women actually go after young girls because they feel like a younger girl won’t know how to handle herself. It’s part of what a bully does, they try to pick the easiest target. But you’re not a target you’re a person. The next time if you feel safe enough I’d say something like “That’s a horrible thing to say to a 13-year-old child sir.” or “Do you always make sexual comments to 13-year-olds?” Say it loud and make the MEN feel ashamed.

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