LeighAnna’s Story: “This is the third time in as many weeks I’ve faced harassment or derogatory speech for being visibly gay”

Two young guys on a train in Boston, MA. They’re probably drunk, we’re probably heading from the same baseball game. They’ve been hitting on/sexually harassing some college-age girls on the same train car as me without getting any responses.

Next they start glancing over towards me, a butch woman with short hair, and I overhear one of them mutter about my haircut. The other speculates whether I’m a man or a woman. Then the first starts asking “are you a lesbian” first quietly, then a little louder and again, a little louder. Like he’s trying to poke me, force me to react.

I stay silent and plan what to do or say next. I estimate how drunk they are, how heavy they look, and whether I could shove one enough to knock him down if I needed to. My heart’s pounding and I realize this is the third time in as many weeks I’ve faced harassment or derogatory speech for being visibly gay. At the next stop, the guys get off the train and I am relieved, but still angry. I decide that when I get home, I will post this on Hollaback and hopefully my story might help others, or at least make me feel less helpless.

Author:

2 Responses

Author comments are in a darker gray color for you to easily identify the posts author in the comments

  1. Vivian says:

    Thank you for telling us your story. Everyone has to be aware of the (disgusting) presence of all kinds of sexual harassment. It’s so messed up that everything is a target for misogynists…

  2. Amy says:

    I hope telling your story has helped you feel less helpless. I know it has helped me. Keep being your beautiful self!

Leave a Reply

Powered by WordPress